Why untidiness is good for us

Our surroundings are actually a projection of our inner world. If this is true then our untidiness communicates a lot! Our untidiness is nearly always associated with another phenomenon: accumulating things.

At the same time, without realizing it, we tend to create the clutter only in certain areas of the house. This also means something. Accumulation is the first step towards untidiness. It seems trivial, but in reality it is a very telling expression of what we have inside us.

It is said that there are basically two types of accumulation: the old and the current. The old accumulation has to do with all those objects that, supposedly, are very valuable to us. When the objects go back a long time, we end up keeping them even though they have no great value.

They might even be rubbish, but we still consider them of value. Both types of accumulation also reflect those fears hidden behind the mess. In the case of the old accumulation, it has to do with the fear of letting go of the past.

There is fear of accepting the new and the old, and it makes us feel nice and safe. In current accumulation, it means that we dislike something that is happening in the present and that we are afraid to face. As we explained earlier, the places with the most clutter speak about the fears that are hidden behind the untidiness. If a relationship between untidiness and fear is established, it is because, in this case, the objects fulfill the role of a smoke curtain, or a barrier that seeks to conceal.

What are they hiding? Disorganization shows that they want to hide, or lose sight of something. Before reminding them about their actions, ensure that they are willing to learn. You also need to be polite about it. Why is your towel on the bed? Some people hate doing certain things — like folding clothes or arranging the dishes. You can wash the dishes while the other person mops the floor.

Or you can spread the wet towel while the other person cooks the meal. It will be no good if you keep forcing an untidy person to do certain things. Just come to an agreement and watch your life — and lungs — get easier. Punishment, here, means making whoever you live with realize that there are consequences for actions.

For instance, you not spreading your wet towel means that it will remain there until it is covered with fungus or bacteria. If you do not clean the toilet after use, you have to go back to do that. One way to have peace of mind while living with an untidy person is to overlook certain things — especially if they are very little things and you notice that the other party has made certain progress and improvements in becoming tidy. Paying attention to the littlest untidy habits will do you more harm.

While it is good to not condone untidiness and ensure that your other party contributes in keeping the environment clean, it is also good to let them learn at their pace and help them through the transition from untidiness to tidiness. Your email address will not be published.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. Connect with us. Career Features Inspired Eno Quagraine created an app to assist mothers in labor. Come to an agreement Some people hate doing certain things — like folding clothes or arranging the dishes. Laslas, learn to overlook certain things One way to have peace of mind while living with an untidy person is to overlook certain things — especially if they are very little things and you notice that the other party has made certain progress and improvements in becoming tidy.

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